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TRE for grief

Grief has a body. It needs somewhere to go.

The felt experience

Grief is heavy. Physically heavy. It sits in the chest, the throat, the belly. It makes the body slow, the limbs leaden. Some days it's a wave; other days it's a weight you carry without noticing until you stop.

You might be grieving a person, a relationship, a way of life or a version of yourself. The body doesn't distinguish. It holds loss the same way.

What the body is doing

Grief activates the body's stress response and, when prolonged, can shift the nervous system into dorsal vagal shutdown: a state of conservation and withdrawal. Muscles tighten around the chest and diaphragm. Breathing becomes shallow. The body contracts.

What tends to help

Space. Time. And practices that allow the body to process what words can't always reach. TRE doesn't try to fix grief or speed it up. It gives the body a way to move what it's holding, gently, at its own pace.

What TRE looks like for grief

Sessions may be quiet and subtle, or deeply emotional. There's no right way to grieve, and there's no right way to tremor. The body takes what it needs. TRE often allows tears, release and a softening that grief-stricken muscles have been waiting for.

Common questions

Is it normal to cry during TRE?
Yes, and it's welcome. Tears are one of the body's natural release mechanisms. If emotions arise during tremoring, it simply means the body is processing what it's been holding. There's no pressure to stop or contain it.
How soon after a loss should I try TRE?
There's no minimum waiting period, but give yourself time to stabilise first. TRE works at whatever stage of grief you're in — it doesn't try to speed the process, just gives the body a way to move what it's holding.

Where to begin

A workshop is a great way to experience TRE for the first time in a supportive group setting.